Most parents—indeed, all parents—want their children to succeed in youth sports. Okay, let’s admit it: Parents would like their children to be stars. That’s normal. And they want to be involved in their child’s sport activities, that, too, is normal. In fact, parental involvement is a critical element in the overall success of youngsters’ sport participation.

Youth sports should be viewed as a part of child rearing, and parents obviously should be part of that process. But parents’ obligation to participate must include taking responsibility for behaving appropriately. Coaches, program directors, sport officials, and the players themselves have a right to demand that parents conform to acceptable standards of behavior.

What are some guidelines for appropriate behavior prior to sport events

• Tell your child to have fun. Emphasize that sports and other activities in life are enjoyable in themselves—whether you win or lose. In other words, having fun does not depend on winning!

• Tell your child that success is related to commitment and effort! The goal is to do your best, rather than be the best. Emphasize that athletes are never “losers” if they commit themselves to doing their best and giving maximum effort.

• Let your son or daughter know that the pride you feel is not affected by their level of performance, or by winning. Again, effort is what counts!

What are some guidelines for appropriate behavior during practices/games?

Youth sports should be enjoyable for everyone, so remember to have fun. Moreover, in addition to some obvious don’ts (using profanity, drinking alcohol, etc.), you are encouraged to follow these rules of conduct:

• Do remain in the spectator area during the practice or game.

• Don’t interfere with the coach. You must be willing to give up the responsibility for your child to the coach for the duration of the event.

• Do express interest, encouragement, and support to your child. Be sure to cheer good effort as well as good performance. Communicate repeatedly that giving total effort is all you expect.

• Don’t shout instructions or criticisms to the children.

• Do lend a hand when a coach or official asks for help.

• Don’t make abusive comments to players, parents, officials, or coaches of either team.

Your childs coaches are likely some of the most influential people in their life. They are committed to your childs success, sometimes even more than you are. They are at the pitch before you get there, and stay long after you leave. They are committed to ensure your child as well as many others improve and have fun while doing so.